Step away from the laptop and reacquaint yourself with three dimensional object of desire. This is the BStylish guide to shutting down your porn habit.
WHAT STARTRED AS A handy way to relieve tension now absorbs hours of your free time; it has you missing the latest India-Pakistan cricket match because you were busy watching Sunny Leone in the heat of action. Pornography still generates more internet traffic than anything else online. And it can impact on more than just your download limits: Hollywood actor Charlie Sheen’s ex-wife Denise Richards cited his ‘habit’ in divorce proceedings.
Yet porn is the convenience food to the haute cuisine of real sex. While that microwave burger is quick and cheap, it will ultimately leave you feeling dirty and not in a good way. Here’s how to put smoked salmon back on your menu.
While we’re sure Sunny Leone and Sasha Grey are perfectly lovely women, it is not a good idea to spend too much virtual time with them. “Your feelgood hormone dopamine spikes when you watch porn,” says Indore – based sexologist Mahesh Nawal. “In time, this over stimulation manifests as a loss of libido and erectile dysfunction 30 years too early.” This is why users demand increasingly extreme videos. There is another problem if you watch too much of porn and it is very psychological. Remember, male porn actors are selected for just one thing, and you’d be a fool to think it’s acting! Most of them are much well endowed than an average male. Chances are that you won’t see any male erections other than their own except in porn films. Now, don’t make the mistake of making X-rated erections the standard by which you judge yourselves. Of course, they are all Goliaths. But don’t think you’re too “small”.
Masturbation causes the release of the same chemicals as sex with a partner, forming a biochemical attachment – except with websites rather than people. It can even affect your career: a study by Nielsen Online found more than a quarter of employees worldwide have watched online porn during working day. French research has also linked the compelling nature of porn to your brain’s ‘mirror neuron system’. This skews your expectations of what sex should be like. “Porn has a way of normalizing extreme sexual behavior.” says British Barkataki, clinical psychologist at New Delhi’s Pushpawati Singhania Research Institute. “If you try to play out this fantasy with an unwilling partner, it can cause irreparable damage to your relationship. “It’s time to log off, gentlemen.
- You’ve missed dates or family engagements because you were ‘otherwise engaged’.
- You’re stressed about people finding out about your habit.
- You’re starting to believe that every woman harbours slutty desires and acrobatic flexibility.
- You can name at least 15 different porn stars.
- The content you seek out is getting stronger-or just a lot weirder.
- You’ve tried to access porn at work, or at a friend or family member’s hous.
- You no longer enjoy ‘vanilla’ sex with real women.
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If you can’t resist ‘xxx’ into the url bar, remove the thing that triggers you to log on: being left alone with you laptop “Keep you computer and DVD player in a busy room. “says Dr Phillipa Lally, who studies habitual behavior at University College London. Your brain associates laptops and phones with porn, so find other habitual uses of your gadgetry.
Tweeting or uploading to Instagram are perfect.
Now you need to admit that you’ve been indulging too much – to someone else. “The habit loses much – to someone else. “The habit loses some of its appeal when it’s no longer covert.” says Lally. Ask a close friend to install an internet filter on your laptop. “McAfee Safe Eyes block your access unless you tap in the password your friend sets.
“Most guys first come to porn simply because they are bored,” says Barkataki. Find moreish replacements for your X-rated downtime such as a heavy squats session at the gym. Exercise will boost the dopamine that’s depleted by heavy porn use. Finally, if you’re in bed reading this next to a non-pixelated lady, your rehab can start now. Sex triggers a psychological high greater than that of masturbation. your brain will soon crave the rush your partner gives you more than anything porn has to offer.